I know what you want, but let’s get one thing straight – you can’t “make” anybody fall in love with you against their will.

What you can do, of course is use your feminine power to charm a man, so that he knows you’re the one he needs – and no other!

And if you’re going to do this, then you need to start with the basics, because all love develops from closeness and affection. “Falling in love” is what happens when two people really like each other and want to be together – and it’s a process that can happen very quickly, or take time. Either way, you can make sure you get what you want by using a little bit of your “feminine wiles”.

Let’s face it: any woman can outwit a man when she puts her mind to it! It’s what women have been doing generations….

So, the basics.

Attracting Him

ONE: Looking Good, Feeling Fine

Now you know, as a woman, how important your appearance and health are. While men might generally perhaps be a little less careful about these things than women, they certainly notice when a woman has put time and effort into making herself look good.

And by presenting yourself with an attractive appearance you can easily and quickly demonstrate to your man – that’s to say, the man you want to fall in love with you – that you feel proud of your looks and your good health.

(By the way, men generally won’t tell you this, but they prefer less make-up rather than more. A natural look is always more appealing to a man.) Being smartly dressed also conveys the message that you value yourself – and if a man has any self-respect, he’s gonna fall in love with a girl who values herself.

And men wont; tell you this either. What they look for is beauty on the inside. Of course beauty on the outside can be appealing. But men are mostly looking for someone who loves them – not someone who looks like a stunning beauty – when they want to connect and fall in love. All women have an equal chance of capturing the heart of the man they want. Let me say that again: all women have an equal chance of capturing the heart of the man they want.

There’s another message in looking good too: it says you’re confident on the inside as well as the outside.

Just in case you’re not clear what I’m talking about, here are the things I’d say are the most important in this area when it comes to the physical aspect of attracting the man of your dreams:

Stay fit and healthy – even if you don’t go to the gym regularly, do some exercise to help you feel good and look good. Remember that aerobic exercise is a great way of reducing the effect of stress on your body and making yourself feel more relaxed.

Keep your hair clean and styled in a way that suits you. (I’m sure I don’t need to say this, but you really need to pay close attention to your personal hygiene, perhaps using a little bit of perfume if you know of one which suits you. Again, men don’t like overpowering scents. This could be a case of “less is more”.)

And without labouring the point, you don’t need to buy new clothes, you just need to make the best of what you have, making sure that it fits you, that it’s clean, and that everything suits you.

TWO: Be Happy and Smile A Lot

One of your greatest attributes is your smile – as long as it’s genuine, of course. Smiling is infectious, and a light-hearted attitude is going to lift the spirits of anyone you’re around – including the man you want. If you’re feeling down, think of times when you were genuinely happy and use those memories to put yourself into a state of joy and if you want.

By the way, when you look at the man you love, the man you want to love you, that special feminine glance – eye contact held briefly, with a smile, or even a direct look into his eyes, is irresistible. It’s like saying to the man “I want you, I’m interested in you.”

A tendency to blush and look down can be seen as lack of confidence and it’s not going to do you any good, so if this is you, make sure you smile at him and hold his glance first. If you need to practice, do with a friend. Eye contact is one of the best ways to get a guy to like you, and it’s worth getting it right.

THREE – Looking Attractively At Your Man

Going on from the smile which we mentioned above, consider this: you know how you want to look a man straight in the eyes when you’re falling in love?

It’s a direct message of affection that’s why making eye contact is one of the basic elements of flirting with someone. You can be sure that it’ll increase any man’s feelings of attraction and interest in you when you make frequent eye contact with him OR when you send quick glances his way.

If you think it’s appropriate, you might even want to lock your gaze with his, even if you’re not saying anything at the time. Your eyes can speak volumes.

Basically by looking at him, briefly holding his gaze, and then looking away, you can show that you’re interested, and his response will tell you whether he’s attracted to you or not.

FOUR – Find Something In Common

You’ve heard the expression “opposites attract” – but believe me, the truth is quite different.

The reason people feel attracted to each other and fall in love for the long term is because they see somebody as being similar to themselves.

Your similarities and the things you have in common promote a sense of connection and mutual understanding.

So if you have things in common these are what you need to emphasize. If you both love a certain type of music, or perhaps doing certain things in your leisure time, this can be a great way to share time and develop mutual interest and affection. (See a research article here.)

FIVE – Don’t Ever Be Needy

I’m sure you know that if you feel your well-being depends on somebody else’s presence, you’re being too needy.  Few men like needy women. We don’t need to talk about why that is just now, but this is important. If you’re trying to get a guy to want to you, then you have to demonstrate that you have a happy, independent life, and show him you don’t need anyone else (him) in your life to make you happy or complete or safe.

You can do that by occasionally turning him down for dates, which will almost certainly make him work harder to get you.