The Art Of Love And Your Man

What Men Like In Love

Is it really possible to make a man fall in love with you?

Yes – up to a point. How you behave, what you say, and how you interact with a man will definitely influence whether or not he likes you.

And since liking is the start of loving, you can definitely help your man to see how much he could love you by showing him what a likable woman you are. You never know, he might just fall head over heels in love with you!

How to help a man fall in love with you.
Maybe you just have to show him how he feels about you!

Let’s start with the point where you’ve met a man you fancy. In fact, you’re crazy about him, and you’re certainly hoping he’s going to fall in love with you.

But before we go any further, there’s something really important to remember. If you are false, try to be someone that you’re not, or use manipulative strategies, you’re heading for failure. You might get a guy to fall for you in the short term. But in the long term, your relationship is going to be doomed. Your man will eventually discover the real you, and it won’t be the person with whom he fell in love.

Making A Man Fall For You Head Over Heels!

So let’s get going – with the initial warning that you can’t make a man fall in love with you. It’s a myth. But don’t despair! Because what you can do is to encourage him to fall in love with you. You can motivate him to fall in love with you. You can even entice him to fall in love with you.

It’s been said that the top three things that men want are sex, affirmation, and partnership.

I’m not sure I completely agree with that! I think what a man wants in a long-term relationship more than anything else is probably appreciation, respect, friendship, and sex – in that order.

There are other factors he’s going to be looking for, too. These include someone he can trust, someone who’ll support him, and someone whom he can support and love and help. (Don’t underestimate how important it is to a man to feel he’s doing something supportive or helpful for a woman. It’s deep in our male genes.)

So it’s a mistake to say that sex is always top of a list of man’s requirements. I would admit, however, that it’s near the top.

As a man, I’d also say that wooing and seducing a woman – the thrill of the chase – is important. Whether you think that’s true or not, it seems reasonable that we would be programmed genetically in that way. Almost all animal species require the male to work hard at displaying his good qualities before the female will mate with him.

Just a thought: maybe you shouldn’t have sex on the first date after all!

Anyhow,  here are some tips about

How To Make A Man Fall In Love With You

1 Respect What He Says & Does

Always try to respond or point out the positive rather than the negative in what a man says or does.

If you habitually find yourself saying things like “That won’t work…”, “You can’t do that…”, “I don’t think…” or the like, try to be more positive.

Think for a few seconds before you respond. Make the effort to understand where a man is coming from when he offers a suggestion or an idea. Maybe your negative responses come from pessimism, fear, habit, or laziness. But whatever the cause, a positive response, or a response which thoughtfully considers the options, makes you look much more  attractive.

And also try to listen so you understand what a man is really saying or why he is saying it. This is just simple courtesy and it’s not the same as agreeing with him.

2 Look Your Man In The Eyes

Look clearly and directly at your man with respect in your gaze and your heart.

This will make him feel masculine and appreciative because he senses the respect youfeel for him. You see, a woman’s most desired quality in a relationship is to be cherished above all else by a man. But a man’s most desired quality in a relationship with a woman is to be respected by her.

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Don’t be disrespectful – it’s not a good relationship strategy!

Nothing diminishes a man’s self-respect, or his feelings of attraction and affection for a woman, more than having her diss him.

So, you ask, what constitutes disrespect? For example,  it’s when he’s making an effort to help or support you, and you don’t take what he’s offering seriously. This will make him feel that you don’t respect him. So even if you don’t want what he’s offering, be gracious and kind as you turn him down. Above all, don’t belittle him.

In essence, at a deeper level, respect is all about not judging a man for what he does or says. It’s about appreciating the fact that he’s offering something of himself to you. That he’s opening up to you.

No matter if he’s offering his support, his assistance, his attempt at problem solving, some new idea, his creativity, or something else. If you don’t want or agree with what’s being offered or suggested, at least treat his offering with respect.

By looking him in the eyes you’ll appear interested in him. You could also try smiling at him when he talks to you. That way, he’ll really think you understand him and care about him. This will deeply impact him, and make him feel much warmer towards you.

3 Touch Him

Touch your man in a non-sexual way to show him your  interest and appreciation, and develop a sense of closeness.

If you’re sitting near a man, display body language which suggests that you’re open to him, and also touch him gently. That could be on his arm, leg, shoulder, hand, back, or indeed anywhere else not especially sexual. You’ll find that if you do this naturally and easily, a deeper connection will rapidly develop between you.

4 Laugh A Lot

A couple who can laugh together are a couple who can sustain each other through good and bad. And we all know that laughter is “the best medicine”!

When you can laugh in the face of stress, you have a great gift – that of using shared humor to reinforce the bond between the two of you. However, although it probably doesn’t need to be said – don’t laugh at your man unless he’s made a joke, or unless he sees the funny side of it too! 

5 Surprise Him

Make your man feel really appreciated by doing something a little bit out of the ordinary or unexpected for him.

Think how you feel when you find he’s left a love note for you in a surprise place. So why not return the favor for him? It doesn’t have to be something complicated. A simple post-it note saying “I love you” on his breakfast mug, or a love heart on the bathroom mirror is enough to get your message through.

In fact, a note or card expressing your love, or any kind of unexpected gift, will definitely make him feel warm towards you. And that’s the foundation of love.

6 Be Caring

Be kind and caring. Love develops more quickly when two people behave kindly and with care towards each other.

And this means showing thoughtfulness, offering your appreciation in the form of frequent “thank yous” and apologizing when necessary. All these things can make a relationship feel sweet and safe to be in. And that’s a relationship which leads to love.

7 Ask For His Help

Asking your man for is help will make his eyes light up. Now he feels useful and needed, with a chance to show you how good he is at being a man.

Few things give a man more pleasure than being able to help a woman. But you have to ask the right way. Here’s the formula: “I need your help.” Yes, that’s right. Forget feminism. Just ask.

7 Devote Time to Each Other

Spend as much time together as possible. One of the most powerful factors in falling in love is proximity – simply being close to each other. 

Sure, if you’re out working all day and come home tired, it stands to reason you may not feel particularly close to each other. And that brings us onto the next points: you have to put time aside for each other.

How much time you put aside depends on your schedule, but the rule is very simple: the more time you spend together, the better. Have a date night. Make time for a check-in on a weekly basis, where you can talk about what’s going on between you.

You’re aiming to spend time together so you can experience how good it feels to be with your partner. That way, you’ll want to celebrate and appreciate them. When you do that, you’ll feel closer, more loving, and the chance of having a long-term relationship is much greater.

8 Act Like Your Man’s Loving Partner

Don’t argue with your man if you can avoid it, but if you do argue, make sure you don’t become abusive or insulting. 

More than anything else, couples who are truly in love focus on the fact that they’re partners. You’re working together to build a relationship; you’re not competitors.

You want to be in this with him, and if your plan works out, you’ll be in it with him for a long time to come.

9 Let Him Know How Much You Appreciate Him

Take the time to say the words to your man that you want him to hear.

Once you get into the habit, it’s easier than you might imagine to say loving things. “You know, I feel really lucky to be with you.” “I’m so glad I met you, because I feel very warm towards you.” Comments like these go a long way to cementing a relationship, and helping a man work out how he feels about you. So it’s always going to be useful to tell him directly how you feel about him.